Healing Methods & Suggestions

 
INDEX
 
General Tips 
  • Helpful practices
  • Approaches and attitudes
  • Beliefs and mottos
Dissociative Identity-specific Tips
  • Helpful Points Specific to Healing from DID
  • Memory Work
 
 

General Tips

 
Healing the dissociative effects of trauma requires more than one method or approach. It takes an ever-changing and adapting combination of a variety of techniques, tools, attitudes and practices for each individual.
 
Over the course of my adult life, I myself have been the recipient of various types of therapies, counseling, etc., including:       
  • psychological, parenting, anger management, behavior modification
  • guided meditation, deep relaxation therapy/hypnosis, EMDR
  • massage, Cranial Sacral, Acupressure, energy work, Reiki, Healing Touch
So remember, it’s crucial for survivors to be open-minded and self-responsible about seeking out the right things to incorporate in their own healing, and for practitioners to facilitate but not direct how this evolves and unfolds for their clients.
 

For a broad overview of the General Dissociation-related range of possibilities, below are some lists of what I have employed in my own healing.

 
 
Helpful practices I’ve used
  • listening to myself and the still small voice within
  • singing, dancing, and “air banding” to identify and express my emotions
  • defining my dreams and life purpose, and following them with a spiritual perspective
  • exploring my interests including how people and human nature work, metaphysics, quantum physics, etc.      
  • focusing my attention and intentions on healing and wholeness
  • using affirmations and practicing living with conscious awareness
  • creating personal meditations incorporating progressive relaxation, self-hypnosis  and creative visualization·
  • asking my higher power for guidance and support in various ways, including
      • the use of cards (angel, tarot, goddess, etc.)
      • randomly opening to a page in a book or bible and taking the words my eyes fall on as the guidance
      • consciously opening my mind and heart to clarity, love, understanding, hope and healing
      • energy work – centering and grounding, chi balancing, chakra alignment, use of color energy, etc.
      • creating metaphysical change-focused ceremonies to enhance and aid my healing and integration
      • journaling to self-express through
        • using non-dominant hand to aid access to “unconscious”
        • writing -stream of consciousness and free-flowing poetry
        • drawing -in pencil, crayon, colored pencil, ink, felt pen, nail polish and even make-up
        • noting, interpreting, and gathering guidance from my dreams and nightmares
 
 
Approaches and attitudes I’ve adopted
  • remembering all feelings are guides and motivators – gifts to cherish and listen to
  • divvying up the support I seek, being careful not to overload others or cause them second-hand trauma             
  • being my authentic self, contributing and acting with love, and making a positive difference where I can
  • learning to love myself and self-care as I would like to be cared for and loved
  • considering problems as challenges
  • focusing on the Zen and Buddhist “big picture” of distancing and non-attachment
  • involving myself with a supportive and empowering spiritual community
  • trusting my instincts and intuition, and listening to my gut  
 
 
Beliefs and mottos that were especially helpful for me
  • Love is the Answer in all things
  • The Future Belongs to Those Who Believe in the Beauty of Their Dreams”
  • I’m a “Human Being not a Human Doing”
  • Go with the Flow and Trust the Process of Life  
  • Acknowledge, Accept, Appreciate
  • Attitude of Gratitude 
  • Self-Honesty
  • Forgiveness
  • “I Create my Reality with my Thoughts and Beliefs” – remembering my feelings will always win out over my thoughts unless I acknowledge them as guides and work with them on a conscious, intellectual level
 
 
 

Dissociative Identity-specific Tips

 

A few years ago the massive  Extreme Abuse Survey (EAS) with nearly 2000 people and 40 countries participating, was done to find out, among other things, what methods and approaches helped people heal from the effects of trauma and dissociation. In 2007, Wanda Karriker compiled a list of Helpful Healing Methods from the EAS results that includes details of how people rated their effectiveness. It starts on page 7 of the PDF of EAS Survey Results at: Karriker-Paper-2007.pdf 

 
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Helpful Points Specific to Dissociative Identity Response
    • be creative inside as well as out
    • adopt stuffed animals, make use of kids’ music, toys, games, coloring books, etc.
    • employ inner world renovations, re-designs and updates as needed
    • adapt and use the skills and knowledge taught by your perpetrators to your benefit
    • find and utilize each alter’s skills and abilities for the benefit of your entire being
    • form an inner co-operative team – oldest or wisest alters lead and facilitate while others contribute in their own ways
    • to access structures that have security measures designed to keep you out, see if you can find and use a safe “backdoor”, window, secret staircase, or other “outside the box” entryway
    • to undo programs, try cautiously running them through backwards
 
 
Memory Work
    • calm, center, etc
    • employ a focal tool – trance state, brain wave healing modality, etc – that provides some controllable dissociation for remembering without re-traumatizing
    • link present issues and problems with past connections through feelings, thoughts, behaviors
    • follow the feeling, phrase, image or smell to the memory of the traumatic event or whatever else might have triggered it
    • only temporarily contain or put away feelings and  other parts of memories as needed (e.g. sights, sounds, smells, etc.); it’s best to just acknowledge and deal with them so they can finally release
    • be sure to get details of:
      • sensory info – sights, smells, physical sensations, etc.
      • words used, phrases taught, etc.
      • who was involved – both externally and internally
      • what happened, in chronological order if possible determine what was perceived to have happened and if what actually happened was different – (in my case I later discovered some of my abuse was filmed; those events were staged and the people only actors)
      • where the event occurred – was it a real place or a staged one?
      • when the event took place – get the body age as well as individual alter(s) age(s)
      • what was learned and came to be believed or accepted as part of world-view because of this particular event or series of events